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• Who Gives a Speech at a Wedding Reception? How to Write a Wedding Toast Tips for the Father of the Bride Speech How to Write a Best Man Toast Advice for the Maid of Honor Speech What to Know About a Newlywed Toast Public Speaking Experts' Wedding Speech Tips 60 Quotes to Use for Your Wedding Toast

Public Speaking Experts Share Their Top Tips for Giving an Amazing Wedding Speech

Check out their best examples and advice to learn how to knock it out of the park.

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Most people would agree that public speaking isn't easy, and this is especially true when you're feeling the added pressure that comes along with giving a speech at a loved one's wedding. Not only do you have the attention of dozens (if not hundreds!) of guests you probably don't know, but you're also trying to appeal to a group of people in a wide range of ages from all different phases of the couple's lives. What's more, you want your speech to delight the couple of the hour and be as appealing to your group of friends as it to the newlyweds' grandparents. All in all, it's a tough task.

Before you panic, know that we're here to help. Ahead, we're sharing a comprehensive guide on what you should include in your speech , how to nail your delivery, and questions to consider to get the brainstorming process started—all from noteworthy speakers, well-established speechwriters, and wedding planners (who have seen it all).

Wedding Speech Template

Every great wedding speech has one thing in common: the right flow. Factor in these guidelines to help you find your own organic rhythm.

Open With a Statement or Question

Don't lead with a joke or a reference to how nervous you are. "The goal is to engage your audience, not make it a boring one-way message," says award-winning motivational speaker Jaime Pfeffer . "You'll lose them if you do this."

Introduce Yourself

After your opener, introduce yourself, says Fallon Carter , a wedding planner, even designer, and professional speaker. "A lot of times, people don't know who is speaking, and they don't know their relationship to the bride or the groom," she says. "It's really important to identify yourself, so make sure you've prepared something."

Address Your Audience

As speaker and life strategy coach Mark Black, CSP , points out, focusing on yourself only enhances nerves. "Instead, concentrate on your audience and how you want them to feel. This will help you to speak from the heart, allowing your speech to do what it's supposed to do: Make the couple feel special while also engaging the audience."

Focus on a Few Points

Seasoned speaker Susan Bender Phelps, CEO of Odyssey Mentoring & Leadership , says her top guideline is to select one to three aspects of the newlyweds that you love and appreciate, along with no more than three short stories to illustrate each of these points (or that one point). "The simple, succinct story or stories where the bride and groom are the hero will work best." This is an excellent way to structure your speech and keep your message focused.

How Long Wedding Speeches Should Be

The ideal length for a speech is three to five minutes, with five minutes being the absolute maximum you should speak for. That's it. "I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone said, 'That was a great wedding, but the best man speech was just too short and that  ruined  it,'" says David Litt , the speechwriter for former President Barack Obama and author of Thanks, Obama .

Carter agrees: "I always say anywhere between two and five minutes—and no more than five minutes," she says. "You want to keep things short and sweet." It's just as important to keep in mind when the speech will take place when determining length, since toasts are often timed with meal courses: "Be mindful of how long a course generally takes or how long it takes people to eat," Carter adds, noting that most courses last between 15 and 20 minutes and that several speeches have to fit inside each window. "If there are other people speaking, you want to be mindful and give them space."

Wedding Speech Tips

Now that you've established the right framework for your words, take note of these essential tips for acing the delivery from a few speaking pros.

Rehearse Regularly

The better prepared you are, the more confident you'll be and the better your speech will be, says author and professional speaker Barry Maher . A good rule of thumb is to practice the speech enough that you can remember the points you want to make and the order in which you want to make them. That way, you can look out to the crowd and make eye contact every so often.

Record Yourself Practicing

Use your phone to take a video of yourself practicing, suggests Kate Kenfield , speaker and sex educator. "It can be a little uncomfortable to watch yourself, but you'll be able to identify distracting mannerisms, such as the verbal pauses 'um,' 'uh,' and 'like'." It's also a good idea to practice your speech in front of someone else. "A second opinion can help you craft your piece and make it that much stronger," she says.

Don't forget body language! Rehearse the speech in front of a mirror and notice things like your facial expression, eye contact, and hand position.

Avoid Alcohol

Although it may be tempting to look for some liquid courage, alcohol definitely won't do you any favors, warns keynote speaker Amy Morin , author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do . "It may cause you to slur your speech and forget your lines, so wait until after your toast to celebrate," she advises. If you need a drink to loosen up the nerves or can't refrain from participating in a toast without being rude, stick to one glass of Champagne before you address the crowd.

Use Nerves to Your Advantage

A little nervousness can actually liven up your speech. "I get worried if I'm not a little nervous," says Maher. "I'll actually try to make myself a little tense to get my energy level up." The key is to harness that energy and communicate it in a positive, genuine way; tensing up to the point that you forget your words or panic won't make for a great presentation.

Be Yourself

Keep in mind that you're not putting on a show, only sharing your personal perspective. Trying too hard to force the funny can yield the opposite of the desired effect, cautions Matt Dalley, co-founder of Simply Eloped . "I've noticed that keeping it short and sweet, heartfelt and warm, and coming across as authentic and focused on the couple is something we are all capable of and generates some very wonderful moments," he says.

Never Embarrass the Newlyweds

It's a wedding toast, not a roast. While this should go without saying, keep the bachelor or bachelorette party jokes out of it, and remember that grandma and possibly a few colleagues are in the audience, notes Laurie Battaglia , a keynote speaker and workplace strategist. "It's okay to look back at childhood and refer to something funny, but ask yourself if you'd like 200-plus of your closest friends knowing that story about you."

Use Your Notes

Reading your speech straight from a piece of paper is a big no-no. However, having a couple of note cards handy is encouraged. "You're likely to be nervous, excited, and exhausted, which can make you forget your lines," explains Morin. "The audience won't care if you glance at your notes. In fact, there's a good chance they won't even notice."

Wedding Speech Brainstorm Ideas

Need some inspiration? Ask yourself these questions to get the brainstorming process going.

• Who will speak before you? After you? How will this affect the content of your toast? (Perhaps you want to include a reference to their speech, thank them for an introduction, or introduce the next speaker).
• Is there someone you should thank for making the event possible and inviting you to speak?
• What would you want to hear in this speech if you were in the audience?
• Is there a favorite story or memory that the couple would want you to share with their friends and family?

Wedding Speech Examples to Make Your Own

So, what does it look like when all these elements come together? Wedding vow and speechwriter Katelyn Peterson , owner and creator of Wedding Words , offered us three examples of successful toasts to inspire your own.

Maid of Honor Wedding Speech Example

"Hi, I’m Maya, the bride’s older sister . With Lucy being three years younger, we fell right into our respective roles as sister-rivals growing up. We constantly fought over stolen clothes, monopolizing the phone back when landlines were a thing, and what boy band to blare from the car speakers. I’m still Team Backstreet Boys while Lucy is forever indebted to NSYNC.

Looking back on those memories, I should have stepped up and granted Lucy permission to wear my favorite sweater for picture day, to hand her the phone once in a while, and to let her play, 'Bye Bye Bye.' Even I can admit that’s a good one. But despite Lucy being the younger sister, she has always been more patient, more accommodating, and more thoughtful than me. And that’s because when it comes to the people she loves, she’s all in.

She’s the one to prioritize their desires. She’s the one to compromise first. And, she’s the one to support their dreams as if they were her own. 

This is why it makes me so happy to know that Lucy has found a home in David. He matches her in compassion, thoughtfulness, and warmth. And I know he’ll spend his life prioritizing her desires, being ready to compromise, and supporting her dreams as his own.

Cheers to Lucy and David! May you always feel loved because you always put each other first."

Best Man Wedding Speech Example

"Hello, everyone. My name is Luke and I’m the best man . I met Robert eight years ago when I became his neighbor. His reputation preceded him as I had heard about the 'Block Party King' before my closing papers were inked. 

Rob has never been the guy to wear fancy clothes. In fact, I’m still in shock seeing him in that tux tonight. And he’s never been the guy to show off even though the work he’s put into his vintage Mustang could make Henry Ford himself envious.

But when it comes to cooking, he should receive an award. His pulled pork is a staple at our summer block parties and his homemade barbeque sauce has remained our neighborhood’s best-kept secret. But the most satisfying part about his delicious dishes is that there’s always plenty to go around. And Rob makes sure your plate is never empty. I have no idea how he pulls it off, but Rob has a covert ability to scoop seconds onto your plate without you ever seeing him do it. I hope you all came hungry tonight, folks. You’ve been warned! 

The first time I met Jasmine I could immediately tell she was an amazing person. She laughed at his jokes which I never thought anyone would get. She supported his career and the nonstop travel involved. But most importantly, whenever we’re all hanging out, Jasmine is the one always topping off Rob’s plate with more pasta, more chicken, more of everything. When she’s around, it’s never empty. 

And that’s when I saw what a perfect match they were for each other. I know they will always put each other first, make sure their needs are met, and will never allow the other to go hungry.

So let’s raise our glasses to toast the newlyweds! As you begin this next chapter together, may your plates and your hearts always remain full."

Father of the Bride Wedding Speech Example

"Good evening, family, and friends. I’m Daniel Lee, the father of the bride. I’d like to welcome you to this special occasion where we get to celebrate the love between my daughter Allison and her new wife, Kristin. 

Standing up here today, I’m reminded of all the moments that led to this significant one. The dance recitals that ended with standing ovations and the soccer games that concluded with winning scoreboards. 

But, while those were fun and rewarding times, those aren’t the moments I cherish most with Allison. The memories that make me smile the brightest are those in-between the big stuff moments. It’s the makeshift magic shows in our living room using a bedsheet that Allison confiscated from our linen closet to convert into a curtain. It’s the countless tea parties she hosted with exclusive invitations just for me and her beloved stuffed bear, Buttons. And it’s the way she’d beg to stay up for just five more minutes but was asleep on the couch by minute number two.

Those everyday, blink-and-you’ll-miss-them moments with Allison are the ones that gave color to my life and filled my heart with a happiness I never knew could exist.

So, my beautiful daughter, as you begin your life with Kristin today, I have one wish for you: May your warmest memories come from the ordinary moments throughout your marriage, and may those moments give you a reason to smile brighter every day. Cheers! I love you both." —Daniel

What Not to Say in a Wedding Speech

Your job when delivering a wedding speech is to keep things light—tell an anecdote, make an emotional connection, then wish the couple well before you close out. Anything that doesn't feel definitively positive should be avoided. "I would advocate against bringing up negative details, specifically past relationships or past spouses," says Carter. "Skip anything that you wouldn't want to be physically recorded and played over and over again—this is a rule of thumb."

Keep it light, delicate, and present- and future-focused, Carter adds. "If you're going to go into the past, make those stories really intentional," she says. "Bring those stories back to who they are now. Your mission is to create a great environment and vibe and to potentially give some information about one of the newlyweds, so that it's enlightening for all guests."

A Guide to Wedding Reception Toasts

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• Advice for the Maid of Honor Speech
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How to Write—And Deliver—The Perfect Wedding Speech

If one of your nearest and dearest is tying the knot, it’s possible you may be asked to give a speech during the wedding festivities. And while having an opportunity to share your love and memories at a major milestone event is an honor, there’s no denying that it’s a big ask—especially if public speaking isn’t your forté. A wedding speech presents a unique challenge: There’s no set formula for how the speech should play out, but it often requires sentimentality, a touch of humor, and the good sense to know when to wrap it up.

Are you a member of the wedding party that wants to (or has been asked to) give a toast at an upcoming celebration? Read ahead to learn how to write and prepare for your big moment.

Who Gives a Wedding Speech?

First off, it’s important to make sure that the couple definitely wants you to give a toast at their celebrations. Traditionally, the maid of honor, best man, and parents of the couple will give a speech at the wedding. However, the couple should explicitly ask these guests well in advance to give a speech so they have plenty of time to prepare. They may also choose additional wedding party members to give toasts at the reception or pre-wedding parties; but if the couple has not asked you to give a speech, do not prepare one. Speeches are carefully placed into a wedding timeline so the day will stay on schedule, and an additional five minutes could cut into strategically timed moments of the celebration.

The to-be-weds also have the right to curate the day as they wish, and occasionally at a rehearsal dinner or welcome party, the couple may open the floor to additional toasts. But if this doesn’t happen, grabbing the mic unexpectedly for an off-the-cuff speech (especially after a few glasses of wine) will not be appreciated.

How to Write a Wedding Speech

If you are asked to give a toast, it’s important that you don’t just wing it. “First, recognize that speechwriting is a creative process,” shares Allison Shapira, founder and CEO of Global Public Speaking . “Give yourself plenty of time to be creative (i.e. not the night before, when you already have so much to stress about). Wait for your most creative time of the day, and turn off any distractions. Spend some unrushed time thinking about your relationship to the couple, and what you’d like to say.”

While there’s no exact template to follow, there is a good basic formula to adhere to. “The framework I recommend for a wedding speech is: story, message, blessing,” she shares. “Tell a heartwarming story, share the message or value behind that story, and then offer a blessing or wish for the couple based on that message.”

“Typically, we advise our speakers to try to bring the audience on a journey where you initially try to make them laugh, then get to the real depth of the speech and earn some tears, then bring the whole speech full circle with a deep insight or story about the couple that ends with a funny final punch,” shares Steven Greitzer, CEO and founder of Provenance , an AI company that specializes in helping write personalized wedding vows, ceremonies, and toasts. “It’s important to have a good balance of humor and sentimentality because, if it’s a full roast, it can feel like you’re just doing a standup comedy show for your own benefit and it could lack substance. Or, if it’s too overly emotional, it can get heavy and perhaps a bit too somber for a wedding celebration.”

When choosing a story, Shapira recommends reading the room. “It should obviously be good-natured, without making anyone look bad. And, it all depends on the family dynamics,” she says. “What one family considers good-natured, another family could consider scathing. Choose someone in the audience whom you think could give you some helpful feedback, and practice the speech with them in advance.”

Greitzer adds that it's important that both members of the couple are highlighted in the speech. “Great anecdotes showcase who each person was before meeting, their synergy together, and their individual and collective growth,” he shares. If you don’t know one member of the couple very well, don’t be afraid to get creative. “One of the best speeches I’ve seen was from a bridesmaid who hadn’t really been able to spend too much time with her best friend’s fiance because of the pandemic,” Greitzer shares. “She creatively read texts she found in her phone that gave her a hilarious timeline of her friend falling in love.”

If you’re still not sure where to begin, consider giving an AI platform a try to help you form your toast. “The Provenance tools guide speakers to create unique, and personal ceremonies, vows, and toasts without the stress. It’s a partner in your brainstorming process; a way to help you verbalize what you were trying to say—but faster,” explains Greitzer. “Instead of being some outdated, mad-libs-style template, the expert-curated prompts inspire special stories and insights, ultimately weaving your responses together into a custom, editable first draft.”

A final writing tip from Shapira? “I definitely recommend creating an outline but do not recommend writing the speech out word for word. When we script the entire speech, it sounds too formal,” says the public speaking expert. “I recommend first brainstorming the content, rearranging it into a logical structure, then drafting a general outline which you can bring with you to the event. While it may look better to simply give the speech ‘from the heart,’ the stress involved in trying to memorize your speech is simply not worth it.”

How to Deliver a Wedding Speech

Writing a wedding speech is half the battle—next comes your performance. It’s important that your toast has a good flow, feels natural, and doesn’t drag on. Here’s where the idiom “practice makes perfect” rings true. Shapira advises giving yourself a few weeks of rehearsal to make your speech feel authentic and fluid. Her recommendations? “Read your speech out loud and make sure it stays within the time you have allotted. Read it to someone else and get their feedback. Record it and watch it back. We use a tool called AMPLIFY to get AI-based feedback.” She adds, “Don’t memorize the speech, but do read it out loud and make sure it sounds like your voice.”

The ideal length of a toast is between two to four minutes, which translates to around 500 to 1000 words on a page. Still, Greitzer notes, “The perfect length for the wedding toast complies with whatever length the couple wants it to be. Many guests don’t realize that long speeches can impact the whole evening’s timeline and affect the caterer, DJ, and so much more.”

While it’s now common to see toasts being read off a phone, both experts agree that it’s much better to print out your speech. “Reading off of a phone comes with the risk of distractions from notifications, a weird backlight that can affect the color of your face in photos, finicky technical difficulties, and having that annoying sound interference with the mic,” says Greitzer. (You also should make sure your speech is legible with a large font and wide spacing so you can easily find your place.)

The final hurdle of giving a wedding toast is getting over your nerves. “Find a quiet place right beforehand to center yourself (perhaps the bathroom or a corner of the room), pause and breathe, and remind yourself why you care about the couple,” recommends Shapira. She also adds—perhaps unsurprisingly—that it’s best to hold back on alcohol consumption ahead of the toast. “No one expects a perfect or professional speech; they want a unique, authentic message. The speech isn’t about you—it’s about the couple. Once you reframe the fact that the center of attention isn’t on you, you can relax.”

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How To Write A Wedding Speech: The Ultimate Guide For Do’s, Don’ts, and Delivery PART 3/3: Delivery

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If you didn’t catch Part One and Part Two in our ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech, read those on our blog ! And then continue here for Part Three, the final installment in this series, where we highlight some tips and tricks you can implement today to deliver your killer wedding speech like a pro.

If you’re wondering how to write a wedding speech, here are a few things to keep in mind so you can deliver it like a pro.

• Try to memorize the speech; use notecards
• Don’t forget body language – rehearse in front of a mirror
• Record yourself while practicing
• Focus on the audience and how you want them to feel
• Avoid alcohol before the speech
• Be yourself
• End with a toast

1. Try to memorize the speech; use notecards

The first tip for how to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro is that a speech will always be presented best if memorized . Eye contact with the audience portrays confidence and helps provide more connection to the ideas being conveyed. 

If you intend to memorize your speech, this will also be a further incentive to keep it short, simple, and concise – as it should be. 

Feel free to use notecards to keep yourself on track, especially if you feel you might get a little nervous and forgetful. Notecards are an excellent way to keep you grounded in your speech, but also save you from just reading the whole thing with your head down and disconnecting yourself from the audience.

2. Rehearse

The most successful wedding speech will be delivered after lots and lots of practice! Especially if you feel you will get nervous , as most do, your best defense for knowing how to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro is knowing your speech in and out, and having performed it for others already. 

Grab a friend or family member and have them sit and listen to your speech. This will help to ensure that all of your points are getting across the way you intend, help you time and land any jokes, and get a feeling for if your speech is too long or too short. 

The feedback will help fine-tune your speech until you feel confident in what you have. And rehearsing it will help when you get the mic on the big day and begin to feel those public speaking jitters. 

3. Don’t forget body language – rehearse in front of a mirror

When practicing your speech, don’t forget the importance of body language ! 

Another tip for how to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro is that practicing in front of a mirror can be a big help. You can watch yourself as you give your speech, seeing if there are any weird facial expressions you make that you should work on changing. Or maybe you will recognize the need to do something different with your hands.

4. Record yourself while practicing

Another helpful trick to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro is to record yourself while practicing and then review the recording! 

Grab your cell phone, press record, take a few steps back, and go for it. When you watch it back, you can see for yourself how you will be perceived. 

Maybe your stance is a little awkward or you need to concentrate on correcting your posture. You can also listen to how it all sounds and whether you might be giving a flat delivery and need to add some inflection in your voice here and there. 

Make a note of all of this on your notecards and keep working on it until you feel confident.

5. Focus on the audience and how you want them to feel

If you tend to get jitters when speaking in public, the worst thing you can do is focus on yourself and how nervous you are. 

Focus instead on the audience and the newlyweds and how you want to make them feel. Taking the focus off of yourself will help relieve some of the pressure that is making you nervous.

6. Avoid alcohol before the speech

Another big no-no for how to write a wedding speech is delivering your speech drunk. It’s tacky, awkward for you and  the audience, and it never ends well. 

Even if you’re not all the way drunk, if you’re even under the influence of alcohol you might get confused and forgetful during your speech or slur your words in a way that you can’t really recover the integrity of what you’re trying to say. Alcohol can also make your throat feel dry making you trip over your words.

But if you think you absolutely cannot make it up there in front of everyone without a little liquid courage, strictly limit yourself to ONE drink or glass of champagne. Save the rest of the celebrating for after you’re done and have successfully delivered your speech. You deserve a drink after that anyway.

7. Be yourself

One of the most important reminders when you go to write your wedding speech and deliver it is don’t feel pressured to be anything but yourself . This speech is ultimately not about a performance by you, but a tribute to the newlyweds. So keep that in mind and do that in whatever way comes naturally to you. 

If you are sentimental, be sentimental. If you’re known for being humorous, ham it up. 

YOU were asked to give this speech, not some fake or forced version of you. So just be you.

8. End with a toast

Of course, the final piece of advice for how to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro is to end with a toast! 

A toast is like the last period on the final sentence of your speech, bringing it to a satisfying conclusion. Raise your glass and have everyone follow suit, wish the newlyweds well, and drink to their future. 

And then you can be super relieved that it’s all over.

Hopefully, you found this ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech and deliver it like a pro helpful. Go get writing and practicing that wedding speech today!

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Writing a Wedding Speech: Do's, Don'ts & Tips

Writing a wedding speech shouldn't feel like a daunting task; it's an incredible opportunity to celebrate the happy couple and share cherished memories with their loved ones. Being asked to write a speech is a profound honor, as the soon-to-be newlyweds want you to play a special role in their big day. While crafting a speech may seem tricky, we've put together the do's and don'ts to make the process smoother and more enjoyable for those tasked with this meaningful responsibility. 

CHOOSING SPEECHMAKERS

Traditionally, the parents, maid of honor, and best man deliver speeches at the reception. However, you can select whomever you'd like to speak at your wedding. If your best man is terrified of public speaking, you don't need to put that pressure on him. Instead, consider a groomsman or a close friend, or opt to skip that role entirely. Considering your inner circle's personalities is essential; you never want to make someone uncomfortable by asking them to write a speech. Standing in front of a crowd is intimidating, and public speaking is only for some. We all have that one friend who loves the limelight; they could be an excellent choice if your closest friends prefer to avoid taking on that task.

SPEECH WRITING DO'S 

Getting started early is a good idea once you are asked to write a speech. Procrastinating can lead to unnecessary stress when this should be a fun task. There are different ways to begin - you could open with a lighthearted joke or simply introduce yourself. If you're going the humor route, make sure to still make your introduction. While most guests may know you, don't assume they all do. Remember to thank the hosts and congratulate the newlyweds. See, it's easier than you thought!  Personalize the speech, whether you are close with one or both of the couple, and share a beloved story about them. A good guideline is to share three traits and three anecdotes about the couple. Ensure you cover the newlywed you're closest with, but talk about them as a couple, too. 

Think simple and heartfelt, short and sweet. Keep it concise, add some jokes, and follow the classic structure with a beginning, middle, and end. Two to five minutes is ideal for a wedding speech, with five minutes being the absolute max. It isn't easy to keep people's attention for any longer than five minutes, even if it is the best speech you've ever written. There are probably other people speaking, so you also want to be mindful of their time.

SPEECH WRITING DON'TS

When crafting a wedding speech, focusing on the couple's love story and the joyous occasion is essential. Avoid topics that might dampen the celebratory mood or offend any of the guests. For example, avoid bringing up sensitive subjects like politics, making fun of the couple, or dwelling on past challenges in their relationship. Keep your stories and humor lighthearted, tasteful, and appropriate for all ages, as grandparents and children will likely be in attendance. Refrain from using inside jokes or references that might exclude certain guests, as a wedding speech should be inclusive and relatable to everyone present. The goal is to create a warm, uplifting atmosphere reflecting the newlyweds' love and happiness.

Now that you know what to do and what not to do when writing your speech, here are a few tips for when it is time to give the speech. 

Practice makes perfect

Practicing your speech will boost your confidence and readiness. Stand in front of a mirror and deliver it aloud to spot any errors and refine your delivery. During the actual speech, avoid reading directly from your phone or notes. While you don't need to memorize every word, familiarize yourself with the key points. This approach allows you to connect with the audience and maintain eye contact effectively. 

Limit Alcohol

Speeches usually occur after meal service and before the dancing starts. Limit yourself to a drink or two, avoiding excessive indulgence. Delivering a speech is an esteemed honor; being intoxicated risks slurred speech, impaired performance, or forgetting your lines, which could embarrass both yourself and the newlyweds who entrusted you with this important role. Once your speech is done, take a deep breath, celebrate with a drink, and let the party begin! 

Be Yourself 

Remember that crafting your speech about the newlyweds is about sharing your genuine perspective, not putting on a show. Avoid the temptation to overload with jokes. Authenticity and a sincere focus on the couple will enhance your speech to its best form. 

Writing a wedding speech is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate the love and happiness of the newlywed couple. Following these do's, don'ts, and tips, you can craft a heartfelt and memorable speech that honors the couple's journey while entertaining their guests. Remember to personalize your speech with cherished anecdotes, keep it concise and meaningful, and deliver it with poise and authenticity. Embrace this chance to uniquely commemorate the couple's joyous new chapter as partners for life. 

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Struggling to Write a Wedding Speech? It’s All in the Details.

If you’ve been charged with saying a few words about the newlyweds, here are some tips to help ease your anxiety and inspire you to speak from the heart.

By Dina Gachman

Massive parties with 10-piece bands and champagne fountains gave way to backyard microweddings and Zoom celebrations during the pandemic. But one tradition has stayed strong, and even thrived, over the last year: the wedding speech.

Love them or hate them, “a speech gives people something to talk about, and it’s an amazing bonding juice,” says Heidi Ellert-McDermott, the founder of Speechy , a British company that creates bespoke speeches for weddings around the world. “It can really kick-start a party.”

Public speaking, whether it’s in front of 10 people or 100, can be intimidating, and if you’ve ever sat through a lengthy, cliché-riddled wedding speech, you know it’s not so easy to pull off a memorable toast.

“We’re all so acutely aware that no one has any idea what tomorrow will bring,” said Marisa Polansky, a founder of the Brooklyn-based speech writing service Speech Tank with Kristine Keller. “The fact that two people want to tackle that tomorrow together feels especially noteworthy. As such, there’s more pressure on speeches to bring a weightiness or gravitas to the event, I think. But it’s an opportunity, too.”

If you’ve been charged with saying a few words about the couple, there are a few things to remember that will help you ease your anxiety and inspire you to speak from the heart.

Ask Yourself ‘Why Me?’

If you’re staring at a blank page, take a step back and think about your relationship to the couple. “Start by asking yourself why you’re giving the speech,” said Tess Barker , 38, a Los Angeles-based comedian who has a “deep résumé as a bridesmaid.” Thinking about your relationship to the couple can help you focus on memories you share, and remind you that you’re not giving a State of the Union address — you’re simply speaking to someone you care about.

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How To Write a Wedding Speech Everyone Will Remember—In a Good Way!

Picture this: Your best friend in the entire world just asked you to be the maid of honor for her wedding ! You couldn’t be more excited to help her pick out her dream dress, plan an unforgettable bachelorette party , and stand next to her on the most important day of her life. And then it hits you. Being the maid of honor means giving a wedding speech in front of potentially hundreds of people.

We get it — that’s a ton of pressure. Public speaking, in general, can be incredibly nerve-racking, not to mention the added pressure of wanting to make your friend feel loved, valued, and appreciated on her big day. The best way to handle those nerves ? Preparation! Start writing your speech as early as possible, and then practice, practice, practice. 

If you need some help putting together that perfect speech, you’re in the right place. Whether you’re the maid of honor or simply a loved one asked to say a few words, read on to find out exactly how to write a wedding speech everyone will remember. Follow this framework to ensure you’ll feel confident and prepared when the moment comes.

1. Start by introducing yourself

First things first: Let the audience know who you are and how you know the couple. This can be very straightforward, so don’t worry about adding humor or extra flair to this part. There’s plenty of time for that later! Simply share your name and your role in the wedding so guests know who’s speaking.

2. Tell a story about your friend

Next, dive into a few memories you share with the bride or groom—whomever you are standing up for. Keep these stories appropriate and family-friendly. N ow is not the time to embarrass the newlyweds in front of their grandparents. Consider starting with a funny anecdote before moving into a heartwarming story. Then, try to tie them together as best as you can. These stories should have a purpose, meaning they should highlight something you love about the person you’re standing up for. 

Here’s an example: When I first moved to town in 3rd grade, I didn’t know anyone. Rachel saw me sitting alone at the lunch table one day, sat down beside me, and introduced herself. She even shared her pudding with me. To this day, that’s the kind of person Rachel is: caring, generous, and kind. I can’t wait to see how she brings these qualities to her marriage.   

You’re welcome to add in some funny one-liners where applicable. But, in my opinion, it’s best to keep things sweet and sentimental, especially for a maid-of-honor speech. Save the jokes and embarrassing stories for the best man. 

3. Share an anecdote about the other person

Even though you’re likely standing up for just one half of the couple, it’s important to show your love and appreciation for both of them. This is a great time to talk about your first time meeting the other person and how you felt about their budding relationship. Then, weave in a story highlighting something you admire about them. Explain why you think this personal attribute will be important in their future together. Again, leave the embarrassing stories out —you want to express your approval of your best friend’s new spouse, not stir up ill will. 

A great example would be a story about how the groom once bought your dinner when you were stood up on a double date you had planned together. Explain how much it meant for him to step up for you in a low moment and how you look forward to seeing him take care of your friend in the future.

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4. Explain what you love about their relationship

Here is the part where you tie it all together. You’ve highlighted the qualities you love about each person, and now it’s time to share how their relationship has made a positive impact on your life or inspired you in some way. 

They’re the reason everyone has gathered together in celebration today. Does their relationship inspire you to be a better partner in your own relationship? Does their goofy energy spark joy in everyone around them? Highlight exactly why you think these two people are meant to be together. 

5. End by raising a glass

After all, a wedding speech is meant to be a toast, so don’t forget this part! One of the best ways to wrap things up is to share your hopes for the couple’s future. Depending on what you know about the couple’s personalities or future plans, this can be simple or specific. You could offer your best wishes for their plans to raise a family or travel the world together, or simply wish them love and happiness in their marriage. Invite the audience to raise a glass in celebration and say “cheers” to the newlyweds.

Other wedding speech tips to note:

Keep it short and sweet.

The perfect wedding speech is around 3-5 minutes. You don’t want to drag on for 10 minutes and lose everyone’s interest. On the flip side, don’t speed through it, or people may not remember it afterward. 

Leave embarrassing stories out

This is not the time to reminisce about drunken nights out or bring up unpleasant memories from previous relationships. While it’s OK to include some humor, it’s always best to share memories that everyone will look back on fondly. 

Make it personal to the couple

Personalize your speech as much as possible. Avoid clichés where you can, and be specific in your sentiments. The audience should come away from your speech feeling like they know you and the couple a bit deeper. 

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How to Write a Wedding Speech

Last Updated: March 19, 2024 Fact Checked

This article was co-authored by Jenny Yi . Jenny Yi is the Founder of Chloe+Mint, an award-winning full service event planning company that specializes in wedding planning, design and floral design. Jenny has been in the industry for over 5 years, and also works closely with notable brands and celebrities on branding and events. There are 7 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 608,361 times.

For most people, their wedding day will be among the most important days of their lives. As such, it is customary for a close friend or loved one to deliver a speech congratulating the newlyweds on their union. This can be a nerve-wracking prospect if you’re the one called upon to give a speech in front of a big, expectant crowd. As the speechwriter, it will pay off to make sure that you’re organized, keep it concise and practice extensively beforehand.

Things You Should Know

Professional wedding planner Jenny Yi says the wedding speech should be “impactful, short, and sweet.” Explain how you know the bride and groom, share a quick backstory on how they met, then wish them well as a couple.

Sample Speeches

Writing a Meaningful Speech

• The best man and maid of honor are usually each asked to make a short speech on behalf of the wedding party. After that, the microphone is sometimes turned over to whoever would like to say a few words.
• Saying your name and briefly summarizing your history with the bride or groom will be enough. Don’t talk about yourself too much. Remember, the focus of your speech is the married couple.

• Use jokes judiciously to break the initial tension and keep the crowd relaxed. Try not to let your speech turn into a stand up comedy routine.
• Keep your humorous stories and remarks appropriate. There will be people of all ages in your audience, including children.
• Funny stories might include a funny story about the bride and groom's meeting, or an anecdote about one of them as a child.

• Sharing unique memories or stories is much more effective than simply complimenting the bride or groom because it is a more personal touch.

• If you decide to use a quote for this segment of the speech, make sure it is short, relevant and not a cliche.

• Acknowledging the people who helped make the wedding festivities possible will make you appear humble, as well as making them feel appreciated.
• Express your gratitude in a couple sentences. There’s no need to go on and on thanking every person individually by name.

Making Sure You're Prepared

• Treat your speech like you would a school assignment. Compose several drafts, check it for errors and have a friend proofread it to make sure it sounds good.

• Familiarize yourself with the order of presentation if multiple speeches are to be given.
• Don’t spend the entire ceremony fretting over your speech. If you’re sufficiently prepared, you won’t need to give it a second thought until it’s time for you to deliver it.

• Know your speech word for word, but try not to sound like you’re simply reciting it from memory. Pace yourself and give every passage emphasis, emotion and clarity.

• Put your entire speech on a couple note cards rather than a several large sheets of paper. Not only will this look better, it will help you keep your speech at the appropriate length.
• Only look at your notes if you draw a blank or forget the next part. This will allow you to keep your eyes up and engage your audience. Even the most riveting speech will be a bore if the person giving it is reading off a note card the whole time.

Giving the Speech

• Take a few slow, deep breaths. Think about what you’re saying and shut out all other distractions. Imagine that you’re giving your speech to one person instead of a room full of people.
• Have a drink or two if it helps your nerves. Just don’t have too many—you want to be focused and clear-headed when it’s time for you to take the floor.

• It’s perfectly okay to give a short speech. Simply say a few kind words, raise a toast and hand back the microphone.
• Speak slowly and deliberately. It’s easy to start chattering too fast when you’re nervous. By talking slower than you feel like you need to, you’ll probably be going at just the right speed.
• People who are underprepared or extremely anxious tend to talk aimlessly. Avoid this by sticking to what you’ve written and look to the crowd for cues about when their attention is evaporating.

• Take a moment to speak to the bride and/or groom directly.
• It’s normal to get a little choked up! As long as you can finish your speech, there’s no need to worry. It may even be flattering, as it will show the people you’re talking about how much you truly care.

• It’s customary for the best man or groomsmen to toast the bride, and the maid of honor to toast the groom.

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• Keep quotes to a minimum, as other people's words can distract from what you're trying to say yourself. Thanks Helpful 2 Not Helpful 1
• If you're stumped on how your speech should flow, approach it the way you would a story: give it a beginning, middle and end. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 1
• Ask an honest, objective friend to give you feedback on your speech after you've finished writing it. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

• Never use a premade template you find on the internet to write a wedding speech. Your speech should be a product of your own unique thoughts, feelings and experiences. Thanks Helpful 6 Not Helpful 1
• Don't drink too much before delivering your speech. Thanks Helpful 5 Not Helpful 1
• Leave out especially embarrassing or offensive anecdotes. These are usually considered bad form. You're supposed to be honoring the married couple, not getting a laugh at their expense. Thanks Helpful 6 Not Helpful 3

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To write a wedding speech, start by introducing yourself and explaining how you know the bride and groom. Then, share some fond memories, like stories from when you were kids or how you met. Next, offer well-wishes to the bride and groom, such as wishing them health, happiness, and prosperity. Alternatively, try opening with a joke or funny anecdote, but make sure that your remarks are appropriate for everyone in attendance. Finally, briefly thank everyone for coming and for making the celebration possible. For tips on how to memorize your speech so that it doesn’t sound rehearsed, read on! Did this summary help you? Yes No

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How to Start a Wedding Speech: Captivating Openings

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If you’re not used to public speaking it would be easy to get stuck on how to start a wedding speech. However, the good thing is once you start, once you get out that door, you are on a roll. So, as long as you can get that part out of the way, you can be sure to hit your home run.

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Giving wedding speeches can be nerve-wracking sometimes, and if you find yourself fussed about your opening or closing lines. Or even a tad worried about the speech, we’re here to guide you.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What goes first in a wedding speech.

The common opening line for wedding speeches is a greeting and introduction. So, something like, “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. I’m (name) and delighted to welcome you all here tonight.”

Who speaks first in wedding speeches?

In the traditional wedding speech order, the father of the bride speaks first, followed by the groom, and then the best man before others.

3 Ways How To Start A Speech For A Wedding

If you are thinking about how to start a speech for a wedding, well, it’s important to keep the type of event in mind. There are several factors that can determine the way you start your speech, the type of speech that you give, and how you close it. This would include:

• The general mood of the event (formal, informal, relaxed, etc).
• The time of the wedding event.
• The location.
• And, your part in the wedding.

Start With An Introduction Of Yourself In A Usual Manner

Although how to start a wedding speech for father of the bride would be different from if you’re the best man. It is always great to start with an introduction. And so, no matter your part in the wedding, introducing yourself would be the polite way to start.

Smile as you do it and make a bit of a joke if you feel tense, or reference how important the day is if you don’t feel like joking.

Start With A Joke

Start with a quote.

Whether you’re thinking about how to start a wedding speech for a sister or a friend, you cannot go wrong with a good quote. If you have a sentimental quote about love, or a favorite quote you both share, this will always be a good idea. And whether you choose to give a quote or a joke, always remember to smile.

Tips On How To Start A Speech At A Wedding

With the right tips on hand, you wouldn’t need to worry much about how to start a speech at a wedding. Use this guide to get your nerves in check. Start strong, and finish well. With the right guidance you’ll do well whether you’re making a speech for a friend, your child or the love of your life.

• Get ready beforehand: If you are worried about how to start a wedding speech as a maid of honor or best man, the last thing you want to do is wing it. To fail to prepare is to prepare to fail, so be sure to get ready well ahead of time.
• Don’t think you need to know your whole speech off by heart: While you might have a good memory, do not rely completely on it. Prepare your speech and write it out in handy notes. You don’t need to write all of it, you could just make cue cards to help with each point.
• Practice in advance including reading aloud: Whether you’re figuring out how to start a speech of best man at wedding or a bridesmaid, you need to rehearse. Practice as much as you can in advance.
• Record yourself to listen how you sound: Recording yourself in audio or videotape will help as well. While it might be a tad uncomfortable, you will get a better idea of any improvements you’d need to make as you practice more.
• When giving your speech – always make eye contact: When you’re wondering how to start a wedding speech for a brother or friend, remember about eye contact. Eye contact connects you to the audience.
• Be yourself: Try to relax, don’t fret and share your perspective on the couple. Just be yourself and the message will be passed across easily. If you are anxious, the guests will feel it too.
• Emotions are ok: It is okay to tell a story that means something to you, and if it does, it is also okay to show emotion. Be it tears or laughter, emotions add feeling to your words.
• Tears are ok: A wedding is a celebration of love, and happy tears are always welcome. So, don’t feel the need to hide those emotions if they rise to the surface.
• Improvisation is ok: You might consider improvising if your nerves threaten to get the best of you. In the end there is no hard and fast rule for giving your speech.

Things to Avoid When Starting Your Wedding Speech

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• Rambling or Going Off on Tangents: It’s important to stay focused and concise when delivering your wedding speech. Avoid rambling or going off on unrelated tangents that could lose the attention of your audience.
• Prolonged Stories or Anecdotes: While sharing a brief and meaningful story can enhance your speech, be cautious not to go into excessive detail or share prolonged anecdotes. Keep your speech engaging and to the point, ensuring that it doesn’t drag on for too long.
• Mentioning Past Relationships or Exes: It’s best to avoid bringing up past relationships or mentioning exes in your wedding speech. Focus on celebrating the love and joy of the couple’s present relationship, rather than delving into the past.
• Overindulging in Alcohol before the Speech: It’s essential to maintain a clear and coherent delivery during your wedding speech. Avoid overindulging in alcohol before your speech to ensure that you speak confidently and coherently.
• Insults or Negative Remarks: Steer clear of making any negative or insulting remarks during your wedding speech. It’s a time to celebrate and uplift the couple, so focus on expressing your love, support, and well wishes for their future.

Remember, a well-crafted and heartfelt wedding speech will be appreciated by the couple and their guests, so it’s important to avoid these common pitfalls to ensure a memorable and positive experience for everyone involved.

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Knowing the answers to a few questions can be helpful if you’re struggling with how to start a wedding speech for a groom or bride. The answers to these simple questions could as well help you create your speech. For instance:

• Who will speak before you? This could influence the content of your speech or toast. You might want to pick up where they left off, say a few words about them, or thank them for introducing you.
• When will you speak? The timing of your speech could also decide the type of speech that you give. If it’s early in the day, you might consider something more formal and quick. If it’s late in the day during dinner, a more relaxed, fun and cheerful speech would be nice.
• Is there a memory the couple would want to share? If there is anything specific the couple would like you to mention, it would be a good idea to find that out beforehand and include it in your speech.
• How much time do you have? Most speeches don’t go above 5 mins. Being aware of how much time you have to speak, will also help you in drafting your speech and deciding what should be said and what should be left out.

How To Start A Wedding Speech: Examples To Find Inspiration

How to start a wedding speech for mother.

There are several ways to start your wedding speech as the mother of the bride or groom. If you are worried about how to start a wedding speech for your daughter or son, the examples below can inspire you.

Hi everybody! I am the mother of our wonderful bride. I am very happy that so many people joined the celebration of our special day today!

Good evening! Who does not know me yet, I am the mother of the bride, _. It’s hard for me to hide my emotions on this wonderful day and I would like to thank all our guests for being with us today!

My name is _. Who does not know – I am the mother of the groom. I am glad to welcome you all here tonight.

How To Start A Wedding Speech For Father Of The Bride

A wedding celebration is not just about the couple, but also about their loved ones. As father of the bride or groom, you would be feeling a lot of emotions on such a big day. You can start your wedding speech by introducing yourself, expressing those emotions, and telling everyone how much this day means to you.

You should probably all know who I am, and if you don’t – I _, the bride’s dad. Welcome to our celebration!

The highest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage. And today we are all here to congratulate our beautiful newlyweds.

Wedding is the most important day in every girl’s life, welcome to my beautiful daughter’s wedding. If someone does not know me, I am the father of the bride, _.

How To Start A Wedding Speech Maid Of Honor

As maid of honor you would have lots of material for a wedding speech. Just deciding how to start your wedding speech and how to organize all of the words can get you on your way.

Hi all! I am _, a bridesmaid. I am so happy that _ got married today. It is such a joyous event for all of us.

You probably know me as a bridesmaid, _. But today you will also recognize me as the queen of the dance floor, because the bride warned that there would be dancing until the morning! Jo, I’m just kidding!

Today is a special day and we are here to celebrate with our newlyweds! We have been preparing for a long year and now this day has come!

How To Start A Speech Of Best Man At Wedding

Whether you have a joke, a quote, or a story to share, as the best man everyone would be interested in what you have to say. So, try to be yourself and read out the words as you have planned and rehearsed.

My dear, _! I’m so happy that you found the girl of your dreams and today is your wedding, but I’m so sad that now you will stop hanging out with me like we did at the university. Okay, I’m kidding! I’m still very happy!

Hi everybody! I’m best man, my name is _, and who doesn’t know I’m a single – this is information for the table where the bridesmaids are. I would like to congratulate our dear newlyweds on this wonderful day!

Good evening everyone! When I was preparing this speech, I was thinking how I can fit my attitude towards _ and our 20 years of friendship into 7 minutes. But, I found a way out – we have the whole night ahead!

How To Start A Wedding Speech For Sister

As the sister of the groom or bride, you won’t need to worry about how to start a bride’s wedding speech. There are many paths to follow. After introducing yourself you could tell a joke about your sibling, tell a story about the couple, or talk about your joy at seeing them hitched finally.

My dear sister! You are so beautiful today! I am so glad that there are so many people here today, and we all gathered to congratulate you and _ on such a special day!

Hi everybody! I am the groom’s sister, _. I would like to say a few words about my brother and welcome his new wife to our family.

I’m _, the groom’s younger sister! All my life I wanted to have not only a brother, but also a sister. How happy I am that now my dreams have come true! _, welcome to our family.

How To Start A Wedding Speech For Brother

Sometimes you feel as if you cannot find the right words, or your nerves get the best of you. However, with preparation, there are more than enough words to express your joy for your brother on his wedding day.

As the brother of the groom, I would like to say a few words about him. I remember when I was 9 and he was 7, we promised each other never to mess with girls. And today we are at his wedding!

Today our family has become bigger! And I’m incredibly happy for these two so happy! I have always been protective of my little sister and only wanted her to date a nice guy. And it happened just like that!

Hello everyone, I’m _. According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. And I totally agree. So sorry, but I’ll be brief.

How to Start a Wedding Speech for a Best Friend

Starting a wedding speech for your best friend requires a heartfelt and personal approach. Here’s an example of how you could begin:

Good evening, everyone. For those who don’t know me, my name is [Your Name], and I have the incredible honor and privilege of standing here today as [Best Friend’s Name]’s best friend. First and foremost, I want to express my deepest gratitude to [Couple’s Names] for allowing me to share in this joyous celebration of their love. Today is not only a celebration of their union but also a testament to the unbreakable bond of friendship that [Best Friend’s Name] and I have shared throughout the years.

How To Start A Bride’s Wedding Speech

As a bride, you wouldn’t need to start your wedding speech with an introduction since everyone attending would no doubt know who you are. Your speech would mostly be one of thanks to your guests, love for your partner a story or two if you like, and an overall expression of joy for such a special day.

I’m so happy to welcome all of you here today to celebrate our wedding and thank you for choosing to spend the day with us!

I want to thank everyone who is with us today – thanks to you this day has become even more special. It will be such a pleasure to see all the photos and videos from our holiday as soon as possible, I’m sure they will be amazing!

I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston created just the best song. And I will always love you too, my dear husband.

How To Start A Wedding Speech For Groom

Just like the bride, the groom would not need any introduction. The groom’s speech could begin with supporting the words of the bride or be totally different.

I would like to join all the words of my wife! Thank you for being with us today on this special day.

If someone does not know me, I _, groom. Or already a husband. Haha, I’m kidding. Today was just the best day, I did not even imagine that everything would be like this.

Hi all! I‘d like to add a few words to my wife’s speech. Like most men, I don’t like attention, photo shooting, etc. But today it wasn’t stressful, it was so relaxed and easy-going thanks to everyone who was with us!

It’s quite common to fret about how to start a wedding speech. However, with some inspirational examples, banging tips and a strong start, you can tackle any wedding speech successfully whether you are the best man, groom, or even mother of the bride.

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How to write the perfect wedding speech

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Whether you’re a wordsmith or not, the prospect of crafting and giving a wedding speech can be a little nerve-wracking — particularly if you’ve never had the pleasure. To make things easier, we’ve compiled 10 tips to help you nail your wedding speech.

If you’ve been sitting in front of a notepad for approximately two hours and three coffees, procrastinating writing a killer wedding speech because you haven’t the foggiest where to start, then let us provide some relief and inspo.

Between the team, we’ve brainstormed 10 tips we think will help you nix the butterflies, knuckle down, and write a bangin’ wedding speech that guests will be talking about (favourably) for years to come.

10 tips for writing the perfect wedding speech.

1. Engage your audience.

If you pay attention to only one of these tips, it should definitely be this one! Giving a wedding speech is a lot like telling a story. If you’re not making eye contact or speaking with tone, they’re going to lose interest very quickly. It’s always beneficial to put personality and flair into a speech.

This comes out naturally when chatting to a group of friends or when reading to a child. Take a deep breath, relax, and speak conversationally — not formally as if you’re about to give your year 11 science presentation.

Bonus tip: Try not to read from a sheet or cue cards if possible, and if you must use them, stick to brief notes and dot points. This will help you tell the story far more naturally.

2. Structure.

Sticking with the analogy of a speech being like a story, it’s a good idea to think carefully about the structure. Great stories have a beginning, a middle and an end — and your speech will be easier to follow should it be structured in a similar way.

Bonus tip: Conclude your speech by referring back to your opening remarks.

3. Balance humour with emotion.

Adding a couple of zingers or funny lines is a fantastic way to get the audience to engage with your speech, but remember, no one is expecting you to be the next Jerry Seinfeld!

Humour should ideally be used in moderation, and your bestie’s reception isn’t an opportunity for you to perfect your stand-up comedy routine (yes, even if it’s really good).

You might like to start out with a good joke to break the ice, but keep in mind that grandparents and children are likely to be present so avoid anything too risqué .

Bonus tip: Balancing jokes with emotional anecdotes is a surefire way to nail your speech.

4. Don’t get wasted.

Do we… even need to say this one? No matter how nervous you are, it’s not especially wise to down eight cocktails pre-speech. Giving a wedding toast when drunk is a recipe for disaster — and embarrassment for your friend.

It’s smart to set yourself a limit, such as only having one or two drinks before giving your speech. That way you can settle your nerves without being in danger of slurring your words.

5. Timing is everything.

Trust us, if you go on for too long, things will get a little… awkward. Cue guests shifting in their seats and polite smiles from the happy couple. When it comes to giving a wedding speech, it’s important that you keep it short and sweet. Aim for around five minutes and you will be on the right track.

Bonus tip: Time yourself when practising. Or better yet, present your speech to someone else and ask them if they think it’s getting a little monologue-y.

6. Take it seriously.

One thing that you need to keep in mind is that being asked to deliver a speech at someone’s wedding is * Anchorman voice* kind of a big deal . While it’s okay — nay, encouraged — to have a little fun with it, it’s still important to take the responsibility very seriously. You have the honour of telling the happy couple’s story so you need to treat it with the respect it deserves.

7. Practise makes perfect.

The less you need to rely on your notes, the more natural your speech is going to sound on the day. The best way to get yourself to a point where you are not dependent on your notes is to practise, practise, practise! Run through your speech at every opportunity using everyone and anyone as your trial audience.

Bonus tip: Beginning practising is difficult as you actually need to think about giving the speech. Try to push through the nerves and practise anyway, even if you feel silly — your future self will thank you for it.

8. Choose a quote.

If you’re at a loss finding somewhere to start, then it can be useful to include a quote or a song lyric. However, make sure that the quote you choose is appropriate.

Stay away from tired quotes that have been done to death and pick out something that really means something to the newlyweds.

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9. Know your own style.

So, we’ve mentioned that when giving a wedding speech you’re going to want to connect with your audience. And if you’re forcing yourself to be someone that you’re not, then you’re going to find this a bit tricky.

If you’re not exactly known for being a laugh a minute then don’t feel pressured to make jokes! Similarly, if you’re generally a bit of a clown, then a formal, sentimental speech might not feel genuine. Instead, play to your strengths.

Bonus tip: Determine your own personal style and stay true to it.

Above all else, relax! Your speech is just a few minutes of the whole day, and everyone wants you to do well. Remember why you’re doing this: you love your friend and want to congratulate them and wish them a happy marriage — try to focus on them and what they mean to you.

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How to Begin a Wedding Speech: Great Opening Lines

Handy one-liners to get your speech off to an amazing start.

If you've read our post on how to make a great wedding speech , you'll know that it's really important to start strong! Well, here we're showing you how to do exactly that, with a list of the best wedding speech opening lines . The beauty of this list is that it works for any kind of wedding speech, whether you're the bride, groom, best man, bridesmaid, father-of-the-bride, or even the flower girl or the groom's granny!

We've made sure to include lots of different options so there's something to suit every style of speech, whether you want to keep it simple, bring the audience to tears, or give them a giggle with a joke . Some of our wedding speech opening lines can be customised, too, to help you make your speech even more personal. So, let's dive in!

Our Favourite Wedding Speech Opening Lines

To help you find what you're looking for, we've split our sample opening lines into three categories; simple and sincere opening lines, funny opening lines and opening lines with quotes from famous people.

Note: (name) can indicate yourself, the bride/groom, the couple as a whole, or another member of the wedding party.  

Wedding Speech Opening Lines: Simple and Sincere Opening Lines

"Good evening, ladies and gentlemen, and thank you (name) for the kind introduction."

"Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. As (name's friend/relative), I'm delighted to welcome you all here tonight."

"Thank you so much, (name), for such a wonderful introduction. I only hope I can live up to your kind words!"

"Hello everyone. I hope you're all having a great night so far."

"Hello, I'm (name) and, for those of you who don't already know me, I'm (relation to couple)."

"Hi everybody, I'm (name), and I'm here to talk a little bit about my good friend (name)."

"Hi everyone, I'm (name), and I'm going to talk a little bit about (name). When I was writing this speech, I asked myself how I could sum up (X) years of friendship, laughter and adventures in one speech, and I decided that I can't. We'd be here all night."

"Hello everybody and welcome. I think we can all agree that it's been a wonderful day so far. (Couple names), you should be really proud of the amazing day you've put together. We're all very lucky to be a part of it."

"Hello everyone. I hope you're all having a great night so far. My life changed completely on (date, year), when (name) came into my life, and it changes again today, as they embark on their latest adventure with (name)."

"Hi everybody. Thank you for the warm welcome. Mark Twain once said that 'there are only two types of speakers in the world. 1. The nervous and 2. Liars.' I'm definitely in the former category, so I hope you'll forgive me if I'm a little bit shaky this evening."

Wedding Speech Opening Lines: Funny Opening Lines to Make Guests LOL

"Hi everyone, I'm (name), and before any of you ask, yes I am single."

"Hi everyone, I'm (name), and I'll be your speaker for the next 95 minutes."

"Hi everybody. If you don't know who I am... well, you're probably at the wrong wedding! But stick around, we need extra people for the conga line."

"Hi everyone. You're probably wondering why I gathered you here today. I've got a once-in-a-lifetime investment opportunity that I know you're going to - sorry, wrong speech!"

"Hello everyone! Thank you all for being here on such an exciting night. Yes, the rumours are true, I will be debuting some new choreography on the dance floor this evening. But in the mean time, I suppose I should talk a little bit about (couple names)."

"Hello, and welcome. You may know me as (name's friend/relative), but tonight, I go by the title, (name), Lord of the Dance."

"Hi everyone. Just in case you don't already know, I'm (name) and I'm the best man. There are some really successful, good-looking, charming men in the room tonight, but now that it's written on the ceremony program in black and white, it's official - I am the best."

"Hi everyone, I'm (name), and I'd like to begin my speech with a quote from the great Seamus Heaney/Maya Angelou/Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr./Mother Teresa... but unfortunately I left my speech in my other jacket. So you'll have to make do with me!"

“Hi everyone. If I could just say a few words … I’d be a better public speaker! That gag was actually stolen from Homer Simpson, which should give you an idea of the caliber of speech you can expect from me tonight.”

"Hi everyone, and welcome. Webster's dictionary describes a wedding as, 'The process of removing weeds from one's garden'. That's a Homer Simpson quote, which should give you an idea of the caliber of speech you can expect from me tonight.”

"Hello everyone, I'm (name.) According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right?"

"Hi everyone. When I was preparing this speech, (name) gave me a list of topics that were strictly off-limits, so I'd like to start with those."

"Hi everyone. I'm (name). Anyone who knows me knows that I'm (name)'s biggest fan. So much so, that I was actually quite hurt when I learned that I wasn't going to be involved in the first dance!"

"Hi everyone. I just want to take a few minutes to talk about my good friend (name). I first met (name) when we were 13, and since then, I've always looked up to him. He was, after all, the only 6ft 2' student at (school name)!"

"Good evening everyone. To our English speakers, I'd like to say welcome, we're delighted that you could be with us today to celebrate the marriage of (couple names). To our (other language) speakers, I'd like to say (use Google Translate or ask a native speaker to translate, 'My llama is very handsome. I hope my translation is correct.')"

Wedding Speech Opening Lines: Beginning with a Quote

"Hi everyone. I'd like to begin my speech with a quote from Dr. James Dobson, who said, 'Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.' "

"Hi everyone. I'd like to begin my speech with a quote from Franz Schubert, who said, 'Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.' "

"Hi everyone. I'd like to begin my speech with a quote from The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who said, 'There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.' "

"Hi everyone. I'd like to begin my speech with a quote from Franklin P. Jones, who said, 'Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.' "

"Hi everyone, I'm (name.) I hope you're all having a wonderful day so far. When I got married to my partner (name), somebody told me, 'Don't just be husband and wife, be president of each other's fan clubs,' and I'd like to pass on that same advice to (couple)."

"Hello everyone. I'd like to begin with a quote from Mignon McLaughlin, who said, 'A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.' Over the past (x) years, I've had the pleasure of watching (name) fall in love with (name) over and over again."

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How to Start a Wedding Speech – Perfect Opening Lines

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Embarking on the journey of delivering a  wedding speech  can often stir up a mix of excitement and nerves. Knowing how to start a wedding speech can set the tone for the entire delivery, making it a crucial step in speech preparation. Whether it’s captivating wedding quotes, humorous  wedding jokes , or heartfelt stories, the opening lines play a key role in connecting with the wedding guests and honoring the wedding couple. Crafting a message that resonates with the wedding day’s celebration, aligns with the wedding style, and embraces wedding traditions can transform a simple speech into a memorable highlight.

This article endeavors to guide readers through crafting a personalized introduction, setting a strong tone right from the beginning, incorporating effective body language, and managing stage nerves for a confident delivery. It will also explore ways to conclude with impact, ensuring the speech for the wedding leaves a lasting impression. From selecting the perfect wedding quotes to navigating through wedding nerves, this guide provides a roadmap for delivering a speech that not only aligns with the wedding celebration’s spirit but also resonates with the wedding audience, making your message an integral part of the ceremony’s joy and the couple’s story.

Table of Contents

Understand Your Audience

Assessing the crowd.

Before diving into the heart of your wedding speech, take a moment to gauge the audience. Understanding the general mood and expectations of the crowd is crucial. If the guests lean towards a more serious demeanor, aim for a conservative and tasteful speech. On the other hand, a relaxed audience might appreciate a bit more playfulness and a few calculated risks. This initial assessment will guide you in choosing the right  tone and content  for your speech, ensuring it resonates well with everyone present.

Familiarizing Yourself with Guests

Getting to know the guests can significantly enhance the connection you establish during your speech. A helpful tip is to read the wedding website ahead of time. Often, couples share their love story, details about the bridal party, and other fun facts that can serve as excellent conversation starters or even elements to incorporate into your speech. This background knowledge not only helps in personalizing your message but also in making the guests feel seen and appreciated. Remember, a wedding speech is not just about addressing the couple but also about engaging with the entire gathering.

Adjusting Tone Based on the Audience

The tone of your speech plays a pivotal role in how well it is received. The “Grandmother Test” is a simple yet effective way to ensure appropriateness. If an anecdote or joke you plan to share wouldn’t be appreciated if heard by the couple’s grandmother, it’s probably best left unsaid. Moreover, keep your speech concise—aim for no more than five minutes—to maintain the audience’s attention. Making eye contact with the couple and various guests throughout your speech can help create a more intimate and engaging experience. Remember, the goal is to complement the joyous atmosphere of the wedding day, not to overshadow it.

Incorporating these strategies into your preparation will not only help you better understand your audience but also empower you to deliver a speech that’s memorable, respectful, and engaging.

Crafting a Personalized Introduction

Creating a personalized introduction for a wedding speech requires a blend of authenticity, humor, and a deep understanding of your relationship with the couple. It’s the perfect opportunity to set the tone for your speech, making it memorable and engaging for all the guests. Below are key strategies to craft an introduction that stands out and resonates with everyone present at the wedding celebration.

Breaking Away from Cliches

To make your wedding speech memorable, start by moving away from overused phrases and generic quotes. Instead of relying on terms like “soulmate” or describing the couple as “beautiful,” try to find unique descriptors that truly capture their essence. For instance, comparing your friend to a blend of Audrey Hepburn’s elegance and Debbie Harry’s cool factor not only avoids cliches but also adds a personal touch that’s both vivid and endearing. Remember, the goal is to wake the audience up with fresh language that paints a clear picture of the couple’s unique qualities.

Incorporating Humor and Warmth

Humor is a fantastic way to connect with the audience and break the ice. Opening with a light-hearted joke, such as a playful set of “rules” for the guests or a humorous observation about the wedding day, immediately engages the audience. However, it’s essential to balance humor with warmth to ensure your speech feels genuine and heartfelt. Sharing a funny story about your first impression of the couple or a memorable moment you’ve shared with them can beautifully blend humor with warmth, showcasing your affection for the couple while keeping the mood light and joyful.

Highlighting Your Relationship to the Couple

Your relationship with the couple is the cornerstone of your speech. Begin by clearly introducing yourself and explaining your connection to the bride, groom, or both. This not only helps set the context for your speech but also personalizes your message. Sharing anecdotes that highlight the couple’s qualities, such as their shared love for board games or how they’ve supported you during a tough time, further personalizes your introduction. These stories not only entertain but also deepen the guests’ understanding of the couple’s character and the bond you share with them.

By focusing on these aspects, your introduction will not only capture the audience’s attention but also pave the way for a speech that’s both memorable and deeply meaningful. Remember, the best wedding speeches are those that reflect your genuine feelings for the couple and your excitement to celebrate their love and union.

Setting the Tone with a Strong Opening

Setting the tone with a strong opening is crucial for a memorable wedding speech. It’s your opportunity to capture the attention of the wedding guests and set the stage for your message. Here are some strategies to achieve that:

Using Anecdotes or Quotes

• Incorporate Memorable Quotes : Begin your speech with a famous quote that resonates with the theme of love and marriage. For example, “It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” — Rita Rudner. This can immediately engage your audience and set a lighthearted tone.
• Share a Personal Anecdote : Relate a brief story about your relationship with the bride or groom, or a moment you witnessed between the couple that left an impression on you. This personal touch can create a connection with the audience and add depth to your speech.

Starting with Gratitude or Compliments

• Express Your Gratitude : Acknowledge the couple for inviting you to play a significant role in their special day. A simple expression of thanks can warm the hearts of the couple and the guests.
• Compliment the Couple : Highlight the qualities you admire in the bride and groom. For instance, “I’ve always admired [bride’s] strength and [groom’s] sense of humor. Together, they make an unstoppable team.”

Incorporating Humor Appropriately

• Choose Humor Wisely : Humor is a fantastic way to engage your audience, but it’s essential to tread lightly. Opt for light-hearted jokes that are inclusive and won’t offend anyone. A safe bet is self-deprecating humor, such as, “I’m the guy who hasn’t gone 4 feet from the bar all evening. I’m also the best man, but mostly the guy at the bar.”
• Avoid Sensitive Topics : Steer clear of jokes about the couple’s past relationships or anything that might cause discomfort. Remember, the goal is to celebrate and uplift, not embarrass.
• Test Your Material : If you’re unsure about a joke or story, run it by someone close to the couple. They can provide valuable feedback on what will resonate well with the couple and their guests.

By starting your wedding speech on the right note, you can create an atmosphere of warmth, celebration, and inclusivity. Whether you choose to open with a poignant quote, a heartfelt anecdote, or a tasteful joke, the key is to be authentic and speak from the heart. This approach will not only set the tone for your speech but also contribute to the joy and love that defines the wedding day.

Incorporating Body Language and Eye Contact

When delivering a wedding speech, the power of body language and eye contact cannot be overstated. These non-verbal cues play a significant role in how the message is received by the audience, making them essential tools for a speaker. Below are strategies to effectively use body language and make eye contact to connect deeply with wedding guests.

Engaging with the Audience through Body Language

Body language is a powerful aspect of communication, conveying emotions and intentions beyond what words can express. When standing before an audience, holding the microphone in one hand and a toasting glass in the other can seem like a balancing act. However, this setup can actually work to your advantage. By holding the mic in one hand and placing the toasting glass on a nearby table, you free up one hand to gesture. This allows for more animated expressions, making your speech more engaging. Gesturing with your hands can help emphasize key points and make your stories more vivid and memorable. Remember, an active speaker who uses their body to communicate leaves a much stronger impression than one who remains static.

Making Eye Contact to Build Rapport

Eye contact is a crucial element in establishing a connection with your audience. It conveys confidence, sincerity, and engagement. When speaking, aim to make eye contact with different people throughout the room, including the wedding couple and guests. This practice not only personalizes the experience for each listener but also helps in managing nerves, as connecting with individuals can make the vast audience seem more approachable. Moreover, eye contact can intensify the emotional impact of your words, making your speech more impactful.

Utilizing Gestures for Emphasis

Gestures are a natural part of communication, enhancing the delivery of your speech. They can be used to highlight important points, convey emotions, and keep the audience engaged. For example, using open hand gestures can signify honesty and openness, helping to foster a connection with the audience. However, it’s important to use gestures that feel natural and are appropriate to the content of your speech. Overdoing gestures or using them inappropriately can distract from the message. Practice your speech and experiment with different gestures to find what works best for conveying your message effectively.

In conclusion, incorporating body language and eye contact into your wedding speech plays a vital role in how your message is received. These non-verbal cues enhance the overall impact of your words, making your speech more engaging and memorable. By engaging with the audience through body language, making eye contact to build rapport, and utilizing gestures for emphasis, you can deliver a wedding speech that truly resonates with the wedding guests and honors the wedding couple.

Managing Nerves and Delivery

Managing nerves  and ensuring smooth delivery are critical aspects of giving a wedding speech that often go overlooked. However, with the right preparation and mindset, anyone can overcome these challenges and deliver a speech that is both memorable and impactful. Below are practical tips and strategies to help manage nerves, maintain an appropriate speaking pace, and deal with unexpected emotions during the speech.

Practical Tips for Calming Nerves

• Understand the Source of Nerves : Recognize that the fear often stems from the possibility of embarrassment rather than the act of speaking itself. Knowing that the audience is supportive and not looking for you to fail can help alleviate some of this anxiety.
• Prepare Thoroughly : Practicing your speech multiple times will boost your confidence. Familiarity with your speech allows you to focus on delivery rather than memorization.
• Breathing Techniques : Learn diaphragmatic breathing to calm your nerves. Practicing the 4-7-8 breathing technique before going on stage can help relax your body and mind.
• Positive Visualization : Imagine yourself delivering the speech confidently. Positive affirmations can transform your mindset and reduce negative thoughts.
• Physical Preparation : Eating a banana before your speech can help with nerves due to its potassium content, which has a calming effect.

Speaking Pace and Pausing

• Practice with a Timer : This helps you get a realistic idea of how long your speech will be and allows you to adjust your pace accordingly.
• Mark Pauses in Your Speech : Identify moments in your speech where a pause for effect or for audience reaction would be appropriate. This helps in pacing your delivery and engaging with your audience.
• Speak Slowly and Clearly : Nervousness can make you speak faster. Make a conscious effort to slow down, which will make your speech more understandable and impactful.

Dealing with Unexpected Emotions

• Stay Grounded : Remember that feeling nervous is natural. Focus on the support you have from the ground beneath your feet and the room around you.
• Allow Yourself to Be Authentic : It’s okay to show emotion. If you feel tears coming, let them. Authenticity resonates more with the audience than a perfectly delivered but emotionless speech.
• Prepare for the Unexpected : Be open to deviating slightly from your prepared speech if the moment calls for it. Your preparation will give you the confidence to trust your instincts.
• Connect with Your Audience : Making eye contact and connecting with the audience can help manage nerves. Seeing friendly faces in the crowd can reassure you and make the experience more personal.

By incorporating these strategies into your preparation and delivery, you can effectively manage nerves and deliver a wedding speech that is both heartfelt and memorable. Remember, the wedding guests are there to celebrate, and they are on your side. With the right mindset and preparation, you can turn your speech into a highlight of the wedding celebration.

Concluding with Impact

Concluding a wedding speech  with impact not only leaves a lasting impression on the couple but also on all the guests. It’s the final chance to encapsulate your feelings, wishes, and hopes for the newlyweds in a memorable manner. Here are strategies to ensure your conclusion resonates with everyone.

Ending on a Memorable Note

To leave your audience with something to remember, consider ending with a powerful quote or a personal anecdote that highlights the couple’s journey or your relationship with them. For instance, using a quote like, “May ‘for better or worse’ be far better than worse,” not only adds a touch of humor but also conveys heartfelt wishes for the couple’s future. Alternatively, sharing a personal memory that reflects the couple’s love and resilience can deeply touch the hearts of the listeners, making your speech unforgettable.

Encouraging Applause or a Toast

Inviting the guests to join you in a toast is a traditional and effective way to conclude. This gesture not only signals the end of your speech but also unites everyone in a shared moment of celebration. You might say, “Let’s raise our glasses to the happy couple and wish them a lifetime of love and happiness.” This encourages a collective participation, turning your concluding words into an interactive and inclusive celebration of the couple’s love.

Wrapping up with Well-Wishes for the Couple

Concluding with well-wishes is a heartfelt way to wrap up your speech. Expressing hopes and dreams for the couple’s future not only leaves them with your blessings but also resonates with the guests’ sentiments. Phrases like, “May all your hopes and dreams come true, and may the memory of this day become dearer with each passing year,” beautifully encapsulate the essence of your wishes for the newlyweds. This not only provides a touching end to your speech but also reinforces the joyous atmosphere of the occasion.

By incorporating these elements into the conclusion of your wedding speech, you ensure that your final words are impactful, memorable, and filled with warmth. It’s a beautiful way to honor the couple’s journey, celebrate their love, and wish them well as they embark on their new life together.

Key Takeaways and Next Steps

A truly good wedding speech is one that is heartfelt, engaging, and memorable. To achieve this, certain elements are crucial, including a personal touch, a blend of emotions, a well-structured format, and appropriate humor. Additionally, warmth, positivity, and thorough  practice  play significant roles in delivering a speech that resonates with the wedding guests and honors the couple. Keeping the speech concise and engaging the audience further ensures that your message is well-received. Here, we summarize these main points and provide encouragement and inspiration for making your wedding speech uniquely memorable.

Summarizing Main Points

• Personal Touch : Share personal anecdotes and memories that highlight your unique relationship with the couple. This adds authenticity and depth to your speech.
• Emotion : Balance humor with sentimentality and sincerity. A mix of emotions keeps the audience engaged and makes your speech more impactful.
• Structure : Organize your speech with a clear introduction, body, and conclusion. This helps in delivering a coherent and compelling message.
• Humor : Use light-hearted jokes and funny anecdotes judiciously to entertain the audience without overshadowing the essence of the occasion.
• Warmth and Positivity : Express your genuine love and support for the couple, sharing hopes and best wishes for their future.
• Practice : Rehearse your speech multiple times to enhance your confidence and ensure smooth delivery on the big day.
• Respectful Length : Aim for a speech duration of 3 to 5 minutes to respect the event’s flow and other speakers.
• Engage the Audience : Make eye contact, speak clearly, and use appropriate body language to connect with your listeners.

Encouragement to Practice and Personalize

To ensure your speech is both memorable and impactful, practice is key. Begin crafting your speech early, allowing ample time for revisions and rehearsal. Use tools like recording yourself to identify and improve upon any distracting mannerisms. Practice in front of a mirror or with a friend to gain feedback and make necessary adjustments. Remember, the more familiar you are with your speech, the more confidently you can deliver it, making eye contact and engaging with your audience effectively.

Inspiration to Make the Speech Unique

Incorporating unique elements into your speech can make it stand out. Consider reversing the chronological order of your storytelling, starting from the present day and moving backward to when you first met the couple. Utilize music snippets from significant years, modify well-known songs with personalized lyrics, or include interactive elements like a quick-fire quiz about the couple. Embracing your personal style, whether it’s humorous or sincere, ensures your speech reflects your genuine sentiments. Always aim for authenticity, focusing on the couple’s journey and your relationship with them.

By keeping these key takeaways and next steps in mind, you’re well on your way to delivering a wedding speech that not only captures the essence of the couple’s relationship but also leaves a lasting impression on all the guests. Remember, this is a celebration of love, and your speech is a tribute to the couple’s special day. With preparation, personalization, and a touch of creativity, you can create a speech that is both meaningful and memorable.

Through the journey from starting a wedding speech to its impactful conclusion, this guide has walked readers through every crucial aspect, ensuring a speech that not just resonates but warmly lingers in the memories of the couple and guests alike. By weaving together personal anecdotes, a  balanced tone of humor and sincerity , alongside a well-structured format, speakers are equipped to deliver messages that harmonize perfectly with the joyous essence of the occasion. The emphasis on thorough practice and engaging storytelling serves as the backbone for delivering a speech that stands out as a highlight of the wedding celebration.

As we reflect on the elements that contribute to a heartfelt and memorable wedding speech, it’s clear that authenticity, emotional intelligence, and a keen understanding of the audience play pivotal roles. Encouragement to personalize your message, paired with the inspiration to infuse your unique style, underlines the importance of making each word count. With this foundation, speakers are poised to not only capture the essence of the couple’s story but to also enhance the celebratory atmosphere of the day, leaving an indelible mark on this significant chapter of their lives.

How Should I Kick Off a Wedding Speech?

To initiate a wedding speech on a high note, consider beginning with a heartfelt greeting such as, “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. As [name’s] friend/relative, I’m thrilled to have you all here tonight.” Alternatively, if you’re responding to an introduction, you might say, “Thank you so much, [name], for such a wonderful introduction. I only hope I can live up to your kind words!”

What Are the Best Ways to Start a Wedding Ceremony Introduction?

When it comes to the opening words of a wedding ceremony, you have a few options depending on the tone and style you prefer:

• For a  Generic Introduction : “Dear friends and family of the Bride and Groom, we welcome and thank you for being part of this significant occasion.”
• For an  Intercultural Setting : “Today is a day to celebrate.”
• For a  Religious Ceremony : “Dear family and friends, we are here to witness [Name Of Bride] and [Name Of Groom], as they exchange their vows of marriage.”

What Makes an Ideal Welcome Speech at a Wedding?

An excellent welcome speech for a wedding warmly greets the bride and groom along with their families, expressing gratitude to everyone for their presence. It highlights the joy of the occasion and the efforts of the couple in organizing a memorable ceremony, with a message like, “A warm welcome to the bride and groom and their families. We thank you all for being a part of this celebration. I hope everybody enjoys the ceremony, lovingly prepared by the wonderful couple we’re here to celebrate today.”

What Should Be Said at the Start of a Wedding Ceremony?

The beginning of a wedding ceremony traditionally involves seating the guests, followed by the bridal party’s entrance. A common opening statement is, “Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the presence of God, family, and friends to witness a joyous occasion—the union of [Name] and [Name] in holy matrimony. Who gives [Name] to be married to [Name]?” This sets the stage for a solemn and celebratory union.